HOW MANY TIMES a day DO YOU
avoid conflict and hide Your TRUTH?
avoiding conflict is Polite, right?
and politeness is survival.
But it's not serving us.
So, why not politeness?
Avoiding conflict doesn't serve us or them.
It may sound crazy, but standing up for yourself is loving them. When we choose politeness, we are choosing our comfort over the relationship, over the growth opportunity for both of us.
We can love ourselves and them at the same time. We can share our hurts and speak our truth, and it can make things better.
The way to do this is by practicing co-commitment.
Co-commitment is communicating in a way where disagreements can be a source of connection instead of distance. It can be learned.
Miki and Velma will be sharing about this and more during the Martyr-Free Mothering 4-month program. Join us for a free masterclass to see what it's all about and start to loosen that politeness programming.
Conflict Is Sexy Masterclass
This talk was June 26, 2025.
We discussed:
• Why politeness is so prevalent
• The cost of politeness: to ourselves, our families, our communities
• What to do instead, and how sexy that is
Plus shared some pleasure-connecting practices, including dance breaks, spring cleans, and favorite frames